Modern Sex: To Sext or Not To Sext


Miss Primm, being a baby-boomer, and just a year out of a two decades long marriage is sometimes a little thrown by modern sex practices. One usually believes that in this regard there is nothing new under the sun. But then there is, and it’s called sexting. And it’s most perplexing.

Sexting is the act of sending sexually explicit messages, primarily between mobile phones. The term was first popularized in the early 21st century, and is a portmanteau of sex and texting, where the latter is meant in the wide sense of sending a text possibly with images.[1] In August 2012, the word sexting was listed for the first time in Merriam-Webster’s Collegiate Dictionary.—Wikipedia

But it is a very popular thing. As one writer put it:

I am a huge fan of sexting. Why? Because it’s the modern day love letter. It’s the torture, the lead-up, the fun, the game. It’s entertainment for those moments when you and that person you are texting with feel sexually deprived or simply just a little bored and horny. Louis C.K. would tell us to be human, live IRL, and sit with that bored, horny, loneliness instead of sexting the pain away, but we can not all be that strong.

A modern day love letter? Really? Oh, so that’s why the Post Office is having trouble making their bills?

But here’s the, ah, rub:

Of course, like any form of communication done through the so-called privacy of our phones, sexting can be dangerous because it’s documented.

Well, yes, exactly. Who wants their private thoughts about intimate actions out there in electronic land where anyone with the skills can suss them out? Or leave such material in the hands of a jilted sexting partner to spread as he or she so desires. One does not need to watch Judge Judy to know how quickly those sorts of things can go south.

An article on sextetiquette gave me this statistic:

4 out of 5 college kids sext. A little over half have reported receiving explicit imagery (meaning the other sexts were likely sweet-talking exchanges like, “i want u 2 blow me” or “nice ( . ) ( . )” or whatever). But here’s where things get tricky. Almost a fifth of the people who received the racy messages then forwarded them onto somebody else.

That’s enough to put the chill in your hot sextcapade isn’t it?

Now articles like the one mentioned above gives some good sextetiquette advice, like not ever putting your face in a sext, and keeping your phone on lock so others don’t spy, or you accidentally butt dial your friends and family with your smut.

Regardless, no matter how careful you are it still seems risky to me.

What about you? You do sext or not? And why?

Photo published under a Creative Commons license by Flickr user Mike Licht.

One thought on “Modern Sex: To Sext or Not To Sext

  1. I will never get into sexting, is dangerous and downright stupid. Most people don’t know that everyting gets backed up in server, so you may think your sext was deleted by your friend, but is still on a backup server.

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